Pay To Play????
My husband loves to come home after a long day of work, and sit in front of the computer, load up his game of World Of Warcraft (WOW) and just veg for a few hours. I have no problem with that, everyone has some kind of an outlet that allows them to wind down, or escape, if just for a moment. Well, he has since stopped playing the game because it requires a monthly membership to play. The cost is, are you ready for this?…….Fourteen Dollars a month ($14.00) I don’t think it is all that much, and it doesn’t add up to all that much when you multiply it by 12 either. The reason he has stopped playing is because we have tightened up the budget. We sat down as a family, 13 year old daughter included, and we put on paper our budget, and how much we were going to spend on what things.
Well, after that was all laid out, we hadn’t put in the cost of the game, so he assumed that since it wasn’t in the budget, he wouldn’t take the money out to play. I had forgotten about the game, and really it was a no brainier for me, My husband likes the game = He takes out the less than 20 dollars a month and plays said game. That is what I chalked it up to. He still didn’t want to play, and he has cancelled his subscription because of the budget. He plopped in front of the computer a few days ago, and kind of gave a sigh, “Oh yeah, that’s right, I don’t have my subscription anymore.” He walked away, and found something else to do.
I do not mind games, I play them myself, but none of my games cost money. I do have neighbors, same as he has friends that play the game with him, but my games are all on Facebook, and I don’t play 3D games like he does, the graphics make my stomach churn. (lol) I don’t mind if he pays for his game, he has been playing it for a few years now, and he likes it, and he has established himself inside the game. The other players know him by his character’s name. He has been having issue about it, and I thought I would put thoughts on my page to see where others stood on the issue.
My husband doesn’t have a habit that sucks hundreds of dollars out of our budget each month, nor does he has any addictions that leave me wondering where the bill money went, or checking behind him to see if he left any receipts out. He likes to play a game that is played, I think, by millions of players each day in several countries, and it only costs $14.00 a month to do it. I think he deserves his downtime. He works hard for his family, and he is a great husband. He doesn’t complain all that much, and he loves his family dearly. I look at that $14.00 a month as a way for him to enjoy some “HIM” time, when nothing is pressing, and he can quest, kill bosses, and gather loot and gold till his heart is content for the few hours that he spends playing it.
Now, if he starts getting lost in his game, and things around the house start falling apart…………………………
That’ll be a whole ‘nuther post! LOL
Compromise ~ Balance
When you hear that word spoken, you as a human being begin to think,”What is it that I have to let go of to make somebody else happy?” Or, “What am I losing out on now?” Compromise has negative connotations to it only because most people come at the situation of marriage from a selfish perspective.
ME, MYSELF, AND THE LOVELY “I”
When you begin to think of yourself more highly than you ought to, that is when you reach the point where you only want what you want, when you want it. People who are in this boat think that the “world owes them”, and that includes their spouse. They want their own bank account, their own car, their own this, that, and the other. Sharing is a word that they will only use if absolutely necessary. Thinking this way, and living your life in this manner, only leads to heartache, for you and your spouse. Marriage is a give and receive, kind of relationship. I don’t say give and take, because if you have a balanced relationship with your wife or husband, you don’t have to take anything, they will give it to you, and all you have to do is receive it, and the perpetual cycle is never ending. Mutual respect between the husband and the wife will make things a lot easier also. When you don’t respect yourself, or your mate, things are out of balance, and compromise goes askew. Too much is required of one spouse, and not the other. Leaving one extremely spent, and the other always wanting more. Parasitic relationships only last so long, after awhile, the parasite doing the sucking kills the host, and the cycle begins all over again. Symbiosis is what you are striving for. Where both parties are benefiting from the relationship in a healthy way, and both are contributing to the relationship in a healthy way. Balance is key, and without that key, you are bound to face a rocky, uphill, journey.
WE, US, TOGETHER…… 2Become 1
Meshing and bonding have to happen if a married couple are going to stay married, and be happy while they are together. Until you come to the point where the both of you begin to think of the two of you as one entity working together to accomplish a common goal, your dreams, aspirations, like, dislikes, are gonna pull you in opposite directions. My husband and I felt it a no brainier that we were gonna share purt near everything when we got married. One bank account, that we both had access to, phones that both of us knew the codes to, the email addresses that each one of us owned and operated, and the pass codes to those. No joke!, we decided that we were gonna be open and honest, and share everything that we could because we felt that was how it is supposed to be. We have total transparency, and nothing is hidden, that is a great feeling and we strive to achieve a deep trust that few couples ever achieve, but we feel is needed in order to have a wonderful marriage. When you start acting as one unit, and you begin to develop that balance that is wholly represented by the yin/yang symbol, your compromise will always feel one sided, and out of proportion. Balance, symbiosis, and togetherness are what is gonna keep you and your mate from falling apart, because when you are solid, and rooted together at your core, nothing can tear you apart.
Compromise…..My choice for you
My choice to give you what you would like, I know that you will be willing to do the same for me, but that is not the reason why I am doing this for you. I truly love you, and I know that you love me. I have no fear of being taken for granted, or being taken advantage of. You and I are working toward a common goal ,and we have each others’ best interest at heart…..What was it you wanted again Sweetie?…….Sure, no problem 
To Compromise… or Not to Compromise
So I was watching an episode of Divorce Court while I was at the gym today. Yes, I watch TV at the gym. I like it. I have this little keypad where I can switch channels and everything. Aren’t you supposed to get a WHOLE body workout when your at the gym? At my gym I get the chance to work out my thumbs, while I keep my lazy couch potato self able to fit in my size 32 jeans. Anyways, back to the story, on this particular episode there was a couple that were divorcing, and watching these two, it really made me think, at what point are we NOT willing to compromise in our marriage?
